I Wear a Size 10 Ring, So What?

Finding rings for big fingers, such a struggle #AMIRIGHT?! That’s why I was pleased to see that Maxey Greene started a movement to talk about the subject: #AllHandsAreGoodHands. The whole movement started with Maxey talking about how there isn’t much nail inspo out there featuring chubby fingers. Honestly, there’s not much of anything with big fingers!

Finding Rings for Big Fingers

So I wear a size 10 ring, maybe 9.5 depending on the ring. Always have, no matter what size my body was. I guess that’s what I get for always popping my fingers? It’s always been awkward buying rings- from high school rings (lawd have mercy I don’t want to read the diary entry from the day they sized us at school), to asking for stacking rings for gifts, to shopping for engagement rings… No experience has every been a breeze.

Last fall Austin and I went ring shopping so I could get an idea for what would look good on my fingers. I had tons of inspo saved on Instagram and Pinterest, but all the photos showed the rings on dainty little fingers that didn’t look like mine.

We went to a few stores and no one ever made me feel comfortable. We finally found a store that promoted a 3D holographic way to try on rings. BINGO, this was my chance to see what rings for big fingers would like on my hand. Unfortunately when we went, it wasn’t working. Womp. But the sales associate was so sweet, we decided to start the process with them.

Engagement Ring Shopping

So apparently being a size 10 ring finger means trying on rings is actually impossible. I had to put on a mens wedding band and hold stones with tweezers over it. Seriously, I can’t make this up. It was one of the more uncomfortable situations i have been in. I can still hear the sales associate “imagine this, but thinner” and “imagine this, but we would need to make a bigger stone to fit your finger and not look too small”.

If I wanted to imagine what rings would look like, I’d have stayed home and looked at Pinterest. I wanted to try rings on, I wanted to see what rings looked like on my big fingers. But because my fingers weren’t thin, I couldn’t try anything on.

And also, they basically told Austin because of the size of my fingers he was going to have to buy a bigger stone. Interesting sales tactic.

In the end it all worked out, I absolutely love my ring and Austin did the most magical job creating something that fits my personality. But even when we got engaged, I was struggling to show it off.

Showing Off Rings for Big Fingers

When I got the ring, I was stoked. I was marrying my best friend, the man of my dreams… and I had the most beautiful ring I would get to wear for the rest of my life. Unfortunately for me, I hated the way my finger looked with the ring on. The rolls around my finger took away the beauty of the ring (or so I thought). Before taking photos of the ring, I would adjust it awkwardly… sometimes even holding it between my fingers or placing it on my thumb. Anything to not show how awful my fingers looked with a ring on.

If only I had seen more hands that looked like mine, maybe I would have been more confident. And maybe the stores would have had more sizes available to try on, too.

All Hands Are Good Hands

So thank you, Maxey, for starting the account @AllHandsAreGoodHands and for all the women sharing their own hands. I have loved seeing so many hands of women… from crooked fingers, big knuckles, scars and birth marks; here’s to more inclusivity online and in real life. And to having a more pleasant experience creating my wedding band.

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